We grow up believing desire is supposed to arrive on its own — instant, spontaneous, the way it looks in the movies. So when it doesn't, we quietly wonder what's wrong with us.This week, I sit down with Rachel Baker, founder of the Australian sexual wellness brand LBDO, to take that myth apart. Rachel started LBDO after a fluorescent-lit sex-shop experience left her thinking there has to be a better way — and after losing her mother and leaving a career at L'Oréal, she built it.We get into the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire (and why "I'm never in the mood" almost never means something is broken), the brakes and accelerators that quietly run your libido, and why the "I'm addicted to my vibrator" fear is a myth. We also talk honestly about libido in pregnancy and grief, how to actually talk to a partner about sex, the censorship battles facing women's pleasure online, and why the most beautiful thing you can do is stop hiding it in a drawer.Whether your desire has gone quiet or you just want to understand your body better, this one will leave you feeling a lot less alone — and a lot less broken.Explore LBDO at lbdo.com — use code LUST15 for 15% off.Chapters:00:00 Intro00:40 Why sex shops are built to embarrass you01:20 The first-vibrator story that sparked a brand03:46 Fear-based vs pleasure-based sex education06:41 Losing her mom & building a "safe space"07:17 How to actually talk to kids about sex09:29 The L'Oréal insight behind LBDO10:46 Launching a sexual wellness brand in lockdown16:18 Who's really buying (teens to women in their 70s)17:15 The customer review that brought Rachel to tears18:14 Why communication is lubrication19:17 Where does libido go in pregnancy?20:17 Responsive vs spontaneous desire (you're not broken)21:35 Brakes & accelerators: the dual control model23:50 Turn-ons, turn-offs & why stress kills desire26:20 The clitoris, anatomy & designing for pleasure27:52 Why Rush took 3 years to design29:09 The hotel housekeeping story30:32 Will a suction toy desensitize you?32:02 The "vibrator addiction" myth, debunked33:57 Vibrator vs suction toy: the real difference35:50 Bringing toys into a relationship37:30 Selfridges, Bloomingdale's & pinch-me moments39:11 The censorship war on women's pleasure41:27 Viagra is fine, but "clitoris" gets flagged?42:40 Keeping desire alive while working with your husband45:33 Pregnancy, pelvic floor & getting honest47:05 An orgasm a day: the health benefits of pleasure⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

Your desires aren't proof that something's wrong with you. They're information about a deeper emotional need, and the path to a fulfilling erotic life is understanding the feeling underneath the act, releasing the shame around it, and learning to communicate it.This week I'm joined by Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant — sexologist, Somatica Certified Sex and Relationship Coach, and former NYC Dominatrix who once lived a double life: working at the Wall Street Journal by day and running sessions in a New York City dungeon by night. Amanda has spent years in the room with people's most private fantasies, and what she's learned quietly dismantles almost everything we're taught about desire.Because underneath even the most surprising kink is something deeply human: a need to be seen, to surrender, to feel wanted, to feel safe. The act is just the packaging. As Amanda puts it: no one is broken. The work was never about fixing your desire; it's about decoding the feeling underneath it, releasing the shame, and learning to say it out loud.We get into the psychology of what powerful men secretly crave, why pain can register as pleasure, how politics shapes our fantasies, and the real reason desire fades in long-term relationships. And if there's a desire you've never had the words for, or a conversation you've been too nervous to start with your partner, this episode is a map for both.Whatever you want, you're allowed to want it. Let's decode it together.In this episode:Why "no one is broken" — and where our desires actually come fromThe real difference between a kink and a fetishWhat powerful, high-achieving men are really seeking when they surrenderHow shame (not the kink itself) is the thing standing in your wayWhy desire fades in long-term love — and the "build a bridge" framework to bring it backHow to name a desire you've never had words for, and bring it to your partner without the cringeChapters00:00 — Intro01:00 — Realizing she was kinky at five04:00 — Kink vs. fetish, and why no one is broken06:30 — How "the status quo" decides what's kinky07:30 — Cuckolding vs. hot-wifing: same act, opposite headspace09:00 — How politics shapes our fantasies11:00 — The double life: Wall Street Journal by day, dungeon by night14:00 — What a dominatrix actually does (it's not what you think)15:00 — The powerful men who had everything but one thing18:00 — "My desire is to be punished" — why desire doesn't have to make sense25:00 — What every client really wanted: to be seen28:00 — Safe words, consent, and the session that still haunts her35:00 — Losing it all in one month — and rebuilding40:00 — Dating in line with your desires (+ the genius Hinge trick)45:00 — Building a bridge: keeping kink alive in a marriage47:00 — The mental load that's quietly killing your sex life57:00 — How to bring up your kink with your partner01:01:00 — What to understand before you live out any fantasyWork with Amanda Dames: https://www.amandadames.com/ Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/ It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com  ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/  ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

Juliette LaMontagne did everything right — the husband, the kids, the career. Behind the scenes, her 25-year marriage was unraveling: codependency, her husband's relapse after decades of sobriety, and a separation she believed was the end.Then came an unexpected second chance, and an unconventional path back to desire.In this episode, the writer behind the serial memoir Touch Me There (now being adapted for television) shares how she rebuilt her marriage and her erotic self from the ground up: psychedelic-assisted therapy, s*xological bodywork, the Wheel of Consent, and the radical accountability that changed how she and her husband connect—in and out of the bedroom.Read Juliette's serial memoir, Touch Me There: https://juliettelamontagne.substack.com/00:00 – Introducing Juliette Lamontagne01:22 – The life that looked perfect06:23 – Marriage, addiction, and collapse09:35 – Separation and a turning point18:28 – Reuniting during Covid19:32 – Discovering k-assisted therapy23:37 – Remission versus recovery26:35 – Releasing shame31:11 – Psychedelic couples therapy39:00 – Enter s*xological bodywork44:18 – Breathwork and awakening desire46:10 – Vulva mapping and de-armouring51:28 – Understanding org*smic meditation63:05 – The Wheel of Consent explained65:04 – Relearning touch with her husband69:00 – The power of taking and allowing72:33 – Rebuilding erotic connection78:52 – The all-women s*x retreat82:49 – First experience with shibari85:11 – Why surrender is so difficult88:21 – The meaning behind Touch Me There90:43 – Where to find Juliette’s workIt’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

The creators of the hit live comedy show Ask a Fuckboy pull back the curtain on modern dating, relationship psychology, and the chaotic behavior that keeps singles questioning everything. From ghosting, breadcrumbing, and love bombing to dating app burnout and the myth of “if he wanted to, he would,” the conversation blends sharp humor with surprisingly honest insights about attachment styles, communication, and finding lasting love. Andie Popova and Val Parker share the real-life dating disasters that inspired their sold-out comedy phenomenon, including outrageous stories of serial daters, shared toothbrush scandals, and the unexpected lessons they've learned from analyzing thousands of dating experiences. Whether you're navigating Hinge, recovering from a situationship, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever, this episode offers a funny, relatable, and thought-provoking look at how people connect, sabotage themselves, and ultimately find the right partner.00:00 – Pre-show setup and dating banter 03:18 – The origin of Ask a Fuckboy Comedy Show 05:57 – Why fuckboys do what they do 07:47 – Can women be fuckboys too? 08:23 – The psychology of the chase 11:52 – Two opposite dating strategies 14:39 – Why people hate dating 17:09 – How to survive dating apps 19:57 – You can’t say the wrong thing to the right person 20:50 – The wildest Ask a Fuckboy stories 22:31 – The different types of fuckboys 24:30 – Love bombing versus real connection 25:25 – Manifesting the right partner 26:24 – Dating a self-described fuckboy 29:30 – Can a fuckboy change? 31:29 – The role of friends in dating behavior 32:50 – Hot takes: coffee dates 35:51 – FaceTime first dates 37:09 – Catfishing, height lies, and profile photos 38:22 – Aspirational dating and punching above your weight 39:47 – When a partner won't take the next step 44:00 – Marriage, commitment, and relationship timing 50:00 – Dating myths and audience questions 57:00 – Final dating lessons and closing thoughtsBuy tickets to watch Ask a Fuckboy live: https://www.askafuckboy.com/Follow them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/askafuckboy/⸻It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com  ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/  ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠ 

Why are women's health issues often brushed off as “just part of aging”?In this eye-opening episode, Natassia sits down with board-certified family nurse practitioner, women's longevity and sexual medicine expert Jackie Giannelli to unpack the truth about perimenopause, menopause, libido, hormone replacement therapy, GLP-1 medications, hair loss, testosterone, vaginal estrogen, peptides, and sexual wellness. They explore why so many women feel dismissed when experiencing brain fog, fatigue, low desire, anxiety, and disrupted sleep and what can actually be done about it. From the controversy surrounding hormone therapy and breast cancer fears to the surprising effects of GLP-1 medications on libido and pleasure, this conversation challenges outdated medical narratives and offers practical insights for women who want to reclaim their vitality, confidence, relationships, and long-term health. If you've ever wondered whether feeling “flat” is normal, this episode may change the way you think about aging and wellness.00:00 – Welcome and introduction01:15 – Why women feel dismissed by healthcare02:58 – The first signs of perimenopause05:25 – Sleep, libido, brain fog, and hormone decline06:25 – Normal vs. optimal hormone levels09:41 – Medical gaslighting and menopause care11:32 – When hormones aren't the whole story13:05 – Testosterone therapy for women15:03 – Understanding estrogen, progesterone, and hormone balance17:28 – Bioidentical vs. synthetic hormones19:19 – The Women's Health Initiative controversy22:04 – Breast cancer fears and hormone therapy24:52 – Feeling flat, dopamine, and SSRIs26:10 – GLP-1 medications and sexual side effects29:20 – Combining hormones with GLP-1 treatment32:08 – Long-term concerns about GLP-1 medications36:12 – Hair loss, hormones, and weight loss drugs41:37 – Peptides explained44:01 – The peptide regulation gray area46:00 – PT-141, Addyi, and female libido treatments51:16 – Why vaginal estrogen is underused54:13 – Designing a home for intimacy and connection57:08 – The science of music and arousal59:00 – Closing thoughtsFollow Jackie Giannelli on InstagramOn this note: It’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

What if your “low libido” is actually a lack of imagination?In this episode, Natassia sits down with writer Carly Pifer, founder of literary erotica platform Aurore, to explore what women really want, how responsive desire styles get turned on by storytelling and why reading erotica is such an effective form of low-pressure foreplay.Carly shares the real‑life experiences that inspired her crowdsourced erotica platform—from interviewing strangers about their intimate lives in bars and going on Tinder “research dates” across Europe to rewriting painful relationships through erotic fiction and helping women feel less ashamed of what turns them on.For the past two years, Natassia has been an avid reader of Aurore’s stories and loves how it offers a playful way to sample different scenarios, learn what actually lights you up (and what doesn’t), and bring those discoveries back into your own sex life. If you’re curious, use code NATASSIA to get 10% off your subscription at readaurore.com.00:00 – Why women connect more with erotica than porn02:00 – Responsive desire vs spontaneous desire04:18 – Erotica as a place you go mentally05:25 – Writing through body image insecurities08:16 – Turning insecurity into eroticism09:39 – Building Aurore and crowdsourced erotica10:30 – Why romance novels don’t work for everyone12:02 – Feeling emotionally safe during sex13:32 – The rise of “real eaters”15:44 – Interviewing strangers about sex in bars18:21 – What people secretly reveal about intimacy20:03 – Bathroom habits and relationship comfort22:09 – Pubic hair trends and attraction24:34 – Tinder dates across Europe27:12 – Why men struggle to talk about intimacy28:55 – Two Frenchmen in Paris story32:12 – Why sex gets better with age33:35 – Writing erotica as emotional healing35:01 – Men learning oral sex from lesbian stories36:25 – What women actually want sexually37:18 – Fantasies as clues to your deeper desires39:16 – Using erotica to communicate with partners41:10 – How to start talking about fantasies43:45 – Why sexual coaching matters44:16 – Making quickies hotter through fantasy45:16 – Love Is Blind and relationship psychology46:43 – The rebellious origins of Aurore48:05 – Straight men writing erotica50:15 – The jeans story and male desire51:10 – Why threesomes dominate fantasies53:09 – Female gaze, dick pics, and visual desire55:14 – Writing erotica to heal sexual trauma56:34 – Understanding consensual non-consent fantasies59:10 – Rewriting trauma through fantasy01:01:06 – A powerful body acceptance writing exercise01:02:22 – Final thoughts and where to find CarlyIt’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. Momotaro Apotheca offers organic solutions that Natassia uses everyday to take care of her intimate health—from their soothing balm, Salve, to their UTI supplement, probiotic, and yeast infection suppository. Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

Let’s be honest: it’s really hard to feel sexy when your vagina feels off. If you’re bracing for irritation, infections, or yet another post‑sex UTI, it’s almost impossible to stay present in the bedroom. In this episode, I sit down with vulvovaginal wellness founder Lindsay Wynn of Momotaro Apotheca for what is essentially Vaginal Health 101—a crash course on UTIs, yeast infections, pH balance, the vaginal microbiome, and why so many of us were never taught how any of this actually works.We  break down the basics in plain language while also talking about the emotional side—shame, anxiety, and that constant low‑grade fear that something is “wrong” with you.You’ll also hear how Lindsay’s own nightmare cycle of recurrent infections pushed her to create the products she couldn’t find: organic salves, suppositories, probiotics, and UTI‑support supplements designed to soothe symptoms, protect the microbiome, and help you feel good in—and about—your body again. Think of this as your bedside‑table guide to feeling more comfortable, more informed, and more confident the next time you get naked with someone, including yourself.Curious to learn more about Momotaro Apotheca? It’s the organic solution that actually works, and I use it everyday. From their soothing balm, Salve, to UTI Supplement, Probiotic, and Yeast Infection Suppository, they have you covered.Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.Guide to 10 vagina smells and what that means about your intimate health: https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/vaginal-scents-odors00:00 – Meet the founder & origin story02:00 – The wilderness mistake that changed everything04:30 – How infections spiral out of control06:30 – The science behind vaginal health & bacteria08:30 – Why traditional treatments don’t always work11:30 – Discovering natural and antimicrobial solutions14:30 – Building a wellness brand from scratch16:00 – Daily rituals and preventative care18:30 – Products that actually work (and why)21:30 – Shocking gaps in sex education24:00 – What we were never taught about our bodies26:30 – What’s “normal” when it comes to smell & pH29:00 – How to talk to a partner about intimacy issues32:00 – Overcoming shame and stigma34:00 – Gen Z, sex, and changing cultural norms38:00 – Relationships, pleasure, and the orgasm gap43:00 – Expanding the product line & business growth46:00 – Supplements, probiotics, and what matters49:00 – Holistic approach to vaginal health52:00 – Practical tips to prevent infections56:00 – Final thoughts on sex, health, and confidence⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

What does it actually look like to build a relationship outside the traditional script, and make it work? In this honest and eye-opening conversation, Hayley Folk opens up about her journey from a young, open marriage to becoming a leading voice in polyamory and modern relationships. She shares how discovering her queerness, navigating an open marriage, and ultimately redefining partnership transformed her understanding of love, desire, and personal truth. From play parties and kink exploration to therapy, communication, and emotional safety, this episode goes far beyond surface-level takes on non-monogamy. Instead, it reveals the real work behind it: vulnerability, boundaries, and radical honesty. Whether you’re curious about polyamory, questioning traditional relationship norms, or just want a more honest look at intimacy and connection, this conversation offers a powerful, human perspective on what it means to love, and live, authentically.00:00 – Podcast intro & guest welcome01:20 – Why polyamory is gaining attention03:40 – Growing up queer & early relationship dynamics06:00 – Open marriage vs polyamory explained08:00 – Falling in love outside a marriage10:00 – First experiences with women12:00 – Meeting Kyle & building radical honesty15:00 – Safety, communication & emotional openness16:00 – One penis policy explained18:00 – Boundaries, anxiety & early challenges21:00 – Therapy and redefining the relationship23:30 – First play party experience25:30 – How confidence and boundaries evolved27:30 – Discovering kink and impact play30:00 – Vulnerability, trust & emotional intimacy34:30 – Advice for attending sex parties37:00 – Consent, safety & aftercare in kink41:00 – Misconceptions from pop culture42:30 – Open marriage memoir trends & gender dynamics46:30 – Mistakes people make opening relationships48:30 – Rules vs agreements vs boundaries50:30 – Staying connected in long-distance marriage52:30 – Living apart while married54:30 – Poly vs monogamous dating dynamics56:30 – Final thoughts & closing⸻Let’s be honest: it’s really hard to feel sexy when things feel off down there. Momotaro Apotheca is the organic solution that actually works, and I use it everyday. From their soothing balm, Salve, to UTI Supplement, Probiotic, and Yeast Infection Suppository, they have you covered.Build your own ritual at https://momotaroapotheca.com/discount/lust and get 20% off with code LUST.⸻Hayley Folk is a sex and relationships writer and polyamorous content creator based in New York City. She specializes in writing about sex, wellness, mental health and more. Her work has appeared in New York Magazine, Refinery29, Cosmo and more. When she’s not sharing about her life as a bisexual, polyamorous woman married to a man online, you can find her writing her upcoming memoir, thrifting or on an airplane.Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepoly.pocket/Follow her on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thepoly.pocket⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

What if the beliefs you were taught about sex, purity, and relationships were never actually yours?In this episode, Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach Lauren Elise Rogers unpacks the hidden impact of purity culture and the long road back to personal agency, pleasure, and truth. She shares her story of growing up in a highly controlled religious environment, navigating a marriage shaped by repression and confusion, and ultimately reclaiming her identity and voice.Lauren takes us inside the emotional and psychological unraveling that comes with questioning everything you were taught about desire, gender roles, and partnership. From how sexual shame lives in the body to the deep rewiring required to build healthy, fulfilling relationships, this conversation is raw, honest, and deeply illuminating.Together, we explore the intersection of sexuality, faith, trauma, and healing—offering a nuanced, real-world look at what it takes to reconnect with your body, your desires, and your truth.Whether you're unpacking your upbringing, craving deeper intimacy in long-term relationships, or simply curious about how desire is shaped (and reshaped), this episode is a powerful invitation to rethink everything you thought you knew about sex and connection.00:00 – Introduction & Lauren’s background01:00 – Growing up in purity culture03:00 – Ownership of the body & early conditioning05:00 – Marriage expectations and gender roles07:00 – Trauma, loss, and a broken marriage08:30 – Feeling undesired & sexual confusion10:00 – Discovering desire and self-exploration12:00 – Shame, literature, and awakening sexuality14:00 – What actually turns people on16:00 – Eroticism vs long-term relationships18:00 – Reintroducing desire in partnerships20:00 – Role play, fantasy, and mental stimulation21:30 – Faith vs sexuality: can they coexist?24:00 – Rewriting harmful beliefs about sex26:00 – Biology, pleasure, and the body28:00 – Female desire and evolutionary dynamics30:00 – Owning sexuality without shame32:00 – Why sex education failed us34:00 – Coaching clients through sexual shame37:00 – Rewiring beliefs stored in the body39:00 – Cultural messaging and gender roles41:00 – Marriage, obligation, and sexual expectations43:00 – Toys, pleasure, and removing stigma46:00 – Expanding pleasure in real life48:00 – Monogamy, safety, and desire50:00 – Rethinking marriage and fulfillment52:00 – Dating scripts and societal conditioning53:30 – Sexual health and overall well-being55:00 – Parenting and breaking the cycle57:00 – Comprehensive sex education vs abstinence59:00 – Raising confident, informed kids01:01:00 – Final thoughts & closing⸻Couple's Intimacy Card Deck - https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deckCode LUST15 for 15% off⸻Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach to her coaching, podcasts, and speaking engagements, offering practical tools that empower her clients and audiences to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues.Follow Lauren here: instagram.com/sex_ed_for_youLauren's website: https://sexedforyou.com/⸻Lust in Translation PodcastDesire, Decoded.Subscribe to the Lust in Translation newsletter: lustintranslation.comFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/

What happens after the healing? Therapists are trained to treat trauma. Almost none of them are trained for what survivors actually need next: a passionate, embodied, erotic life.In this episode, Natassia sits down with Dr. Holly Richmond — somatic psychotherapist, sex therapist, and author of Reclaiming Pleasure — to explore the gap nobody talks about. Holly shares her own story of a decade-long sexless marriage, the moment eroticism cracked her open, and the three-step clinical framework she's spent her career building for women who want to reclaim desire on the other side of trauma.They get into why the body expresses trauma rather than stores it (and what that means for healing), the surprising fantasies survivors often develop and why they make complete psychological sense, why safety and comfort are not the same thing — and why confusing them quietly kills desire in long-term relationships. Plus: the prescription for day sex, what self-pleasure and masturbation actually have to do with each other, and why "I don't care if I ever have sex again" is never the end of the story.This one is for anyone who has ever felt shut down, disconnected from their body, or quietly wondered if desire is gone for good. It isn't.— Rebuilding your relationship with pleasure starts with tools that feel good to reach for. Explore LBDO's beautifully designed intimacy essentials at lbdo.com — use code LUST15 for 15% off.— Dr. Holly Richmond’s website: https://drhollyrichmond.com/Dr. Holly Richmond’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond__Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/ ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠

What if most of what we get wrong about sex — in the bedroom, the doctor's office, and the comments section — starts with asking the wrong questions?In this candid, wide-ranging episode, Natassia sits down with sex educator and public health advocate Birna Gustafsson, who teaches at Harvard Sex Week and instructs nurses and midwives in sexuality in clinical practice at the University of Iceland, to unpack consent beyond the checklist, sex and disability, desire and frequency myths, sexual communication, oral sex, enthusiasm versus technique, queer pleasure, the viral "real eater" phenomenon, and the sex ed most of us never got.From the ER case studies she teaches — the ones nursing school never prepares you for — to the sold-out BJ class and the oral pleasure workshop men refuse to attend, to the TikTok trend Playboy interviewed her about, Birna makes the case that the measure of a good sex life was never what you're doing or how often. It's how you feel about it. And that enthusiasm — real, embodied attraction to the moment — beats technique every time.Whether you're the one asking the questions (as a partner, a parent, or a practitioner) or the one who's never had the words to answer them, this conversation will change how you talk about sex.In this episode:Why "how often do you have sex?" is the wrong question — and what to ask insteadThe consent conversations nobody prepares you for: Alzheimer's, disability, and the patients medicine forgetsThe class men refuse to take, and what it says about gendered scriptsWhy enthusiasm beats technique — and whether it can be taughtWhat "real eaters" are, why women are raising the bar, and how to spot the fakesWhy the performance IS the experience in queer sex — and what everyone else can learn from itFollow Birna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bbirna/ Visit her website: https://birna.net Subscribe to her new platform, Explicit Studies: https://explicitstudies.substack.com ⸻As a sexologist, I'm picky about the products I recommend, and LBDO has become one of the brands I trust both personally and professionally. On my solo nights, I reach for Rush, their air-pulse stimulator that's soft, intuitive, and elegant enough to live on your nightstand. And with my husband, we bring in Loop, LBDO's vibrating ring that adds a warm hum of pleasure for both of us. Upgrade your solo and partnered rituals at https://us.lbdo.com/discount/LUST15 and use code LUST15 at checkout for 15% off.⸻Lust in Translation PodcastSubscribe to our newsletter for exclusive insights: ⁠lustintranslation.com  ⁠Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lustintranslationpod/   ⁠Follow Natassia on on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/natassiamiller/⁠